my reply

this is wad is on the tag board for now. its easier to read it this way too. since you, who choose to remain annonymous, have spoken, i shall clarify some matters too. my comments r in white. =)

girl a: hi.i just heard some stupid news from 1 of my best fren since pri sch that you got your bf to have a talk with him.something about him harrassing you?! what rubbish.if you are tht innocent and all, you wouldnt have ran to my best fren and pour out your woes to him everytime your guy makes you upset.
[u mean i cant confide in my fren? so i see dat u bottle all ur feelings too? i hav told melvin just about a million times how sucky a fren i am, i dun deny dat. n u cant seek a guy's view on a guy prob? its cuz i noe he gives unbiased views, dats y i talk to him bout my probs. n i also told him he can juz ignore my complains i juz need to pour out to someone.]

knowing how my fren felt and yet you still took him as a spare tyre.i dont think you are that gd either.
[like i said, i nv eva said i was a gd person, he shld hav heard me said dat a million times too. i noe i've nv been a gd fren to many of my frens although i try to b, but finally someone agrees wif me, so thanks for helping ppl realise im not juz saying it.]

and as for your bf.pls ask him to get his facts right before finding ppl for a talkdown or whatever. [this has nothing to do wif my bf. u noe nothing bout him so i will really appreciate it if u left him out of this. the reason y he spoke to melvin was to stop him from doing all those things dats not worth it. i've tried n failed to stop melvin, so its better if the guys had a talk. to make things clearer for everyone.]

if you are the one that contacted my best fren most of the time,dont go telling ur guy that its my fren who came to look for you first.and secondly, i dont think sending someone home is call stalking.is your guy's english vocab so poor that he dont even know the meaning of stalking? [please refrain urself from insulting someone u hav nv met. dats not very nice of u. ]

and you as a girl with a bf, if you know another guy likes you, dont give him false hope either by contacting him.if you dint contact him, none of these would happen!!
[right, when melvin told me bout it, i told him it was IMPOSSIBLE between me n him. i duno how much clearer i can put it without swearing which i dont actually do. wads more, melvin was the one who wanted me to pretend he nv said dat, n continue being frens. so fine i continue treating him as my "jie mei", exactly like wad i told him i would do. and after wad happen last wk when i met up wif the band for the 1st time, i knew something has to b done, which was y i told my bf about everything. which was also y, for the past wk i didnt talk to him animore. hey im doing exactly wad u said i shld b doing. im juz doing it a little later, which caused much more probs. but then again, im not trying to give melvin false hope by continue being a fren like he said we shld b.

that thurs when i met up wif the band for the 1st time, i brought my bez fren along too. i believe ALL OF THEM, felt so awkward wif melvin following/stalking/escorting or wadeva u wan to call it, behind all of us all the way. even before we set off to look for the studio i already told him numerous times to go home because i noe he'll hav nothing to do, but he didnt wan to. i told him SO MANY TIMES i got tired of doing it. even my band frens were asking me about him, they tried to make space for him to sit wif us, but he juz didnt. i did intro melvin to them so we could all talk 2gether, but even after dat, melvin juz kept quiet n followed/stalked/escorted us all. and when we were going home, one of the guys in the band told me, "hey melvin is punching the wall leh". melvin's pissed, why? because he refused to go home no matter wad i said. exactly wad i needed. someone to create a freaky 1st impression for me. yeah.

i hate it when im torn between 2 diff parties. i hate it when im going out wif some ppl, and theres someone there sulking behind. im out to hav fun, to jam, not to console my fren. dat can be done another time. theres always a better time for dat. if he really had a prob he wanted to talk to me about, he could hav said it before i met up wif the band.

wad pissed me off was also the way he spoke to me, like a bf questioning his gf. he might not b doing it on purpose or consiously, but dats the way it felt like to me. n i hate it. so i decided to stop all this confusion n ignore him. i might b doing it all wrong, but at least i tried.]

and you know that my fren is not the sort that goes after other guy's gf.he is just trying to be there when you needed him, and look what he got?! a face to face talk with a hollow guy!? if you really have no interest in him and are totally head over heels in love with ur BAOZY or whatever,den stop your msging with my fren.
[i realise wad a big mistake it was to speak to melvin even though he asked me to. i hav stopped talking to him now alright...]

he dont need that from someone like you.
[yes he didnt need dat. juz like i told him. but guess wad. he didnt listen to me. juz like nobody eva listens to me. juz like even when u, girl a, reads this, wun care about a thing i said n continue defending melvin. im not saying its wrong, its fine to defend ur fren. but wad happened last Thurs was too much for me to take. even though melvin knew he shldnt hav done dat, theres juz somethings i cant stand no matter how much i try to get over it.]

we as his real frens will never treat him the way you treated him.and in case ur guy starts talking, let me ask u this qns baozy or whatever,when my best fren was with ur current gf last time, did you not always msg her as well, if you dare say no,i bet you are one cowardly man.call yourself an NCC trained guy.oh pls.dont disgrace the CCA.
[dont drag my bf into this, n dun insult someone u dont even noe. it was a majorly horrible mistake to b wif melvin dat time, not cuz he was bad. cuz he was too nice to me. it was a mistake i've made n regret to this dae. i cant emphasize this enuff. i didnt mean to treat melvin like a "replacement" or spare tyre or wadeva. it was just a wrong decision i've made. im not perfect n neither r u. i make mistakes n so do u. this was one i've made n i apologised for it already. so wad u wan me to do? turn back time?

and wad has this got anithing to do wif NCC? this has nothing to do wif who he is when his in NCC, this has nothing to do wif his character. his juz trying to b a gd bf. to protect his gf. PLEASE, direct all blame at me all u want, this has nothing to do wif my bf.]

using words like stalking is more appropriate for you in the past.
[now i wonder if u noe wad stalking means. he didnt follow me arnd when im out wif my frens. calling n smsing nonstop is more of harrassing/annyong/ pestering. not stalking. i didnt see my bf stalking me aniwhere before, so i wonder how u saw dat happening.....or ur juz making it up.....]

anyway. all im trying to say is,before you or ur guy starts blaming my fren.take a look at your own actions first.and i hope you still have the conscience to apologise to him for all rubbish given to by ur bf! btw, my fren doesnt know im doing this as well.no point finding him.good day and GOD BLESS! and, i already told my fren to try to FORGET you le.so me as his fren is doing my part.and this is where it shall end.
[hey ur not the only one who told him to do that. i tried dat too, ur not the only one who tried to do ur part as a fren. im juz not the right person to do it. since he dun listen to me aniwaes.]

and grace, you will realise you have lost a potentially really good friend...haiz you can choose to ban me or even delete the post.but i do hope you will no longer give my fren anymore trouble already.
[i wun delete the post. hahaha! this helps clear things up once n for all. thanks again.]

thanks for ur kindness oh ya, for all grace's friends, i do understand if you want to defend your fren.but pls, get the whole picture before defending.otherwise it doesnt reflect much on any of you.no offence to anyone. but only people who knows the story will understand it. thanks
[n y r u telling my frens how to b a fren? i believe they can judge this for themselves thank u very much.]

and so ends the horribly irritating situation. something i shld hav done long long long time ago. FINALLY.

~im done wif this crap once n for all~